Stop Taking Inventory on What’s Wrong With You
If you’re one of those people who daily think about all the things that are wrong with you, STOP IT! Don’t focus on your flaws, your weaknesses, or what you’re not. Stop taking inventory on everything that is wrong with you, and begin to take inventory on all the things that are right about you. Even in your weakness, you are fearfully and marvelously made (Psalm 139:14). If you think of yourself as ordinary, you’re not seeing yourself from a true perspective—you’re God’s divine creation. God created you physically and spiritually different from anyone else. There has never been, nor will there ever be, another YOU! Think on that for a moment. Say out loud right now, “I’m God’s masterpiece in the making!”
Encourage Yourself Daily
Daily encourage yourself in the best way possible—by giving yourself a strong dose of encouragement as often as needed during the day. You must condition your mind to think about the positive things that have happen and are happening in your life experiences. The only encouragement that you can count on is the encouragement that you create within yourself. There’s an energy which inspires you to take action towards being the best expression of yourself, and there’s an energy which discourages you from thinking that a better self is possible.
The Bible says, “Let the weak say, I am strong (Joel 3:10).” You may think to yourself, it would be a lie to say the opposite of what my reality is; but, in God’s plan, you must visualize yourself strong in order to overcome weakness. We are to call those things that be not as though they were (Romans 4:17). During doubtful times in your life, just remind yourself that with God all things are possible (Matthew 19:26).
How to Respond to Other People’s Criticism of You
Other people’s opinion of you doesn’t have to become your reality! Don’t allow yourself to feel inferior to other people, because there are no faultless people. We all have shortcomings, so work on being less sensitive and not taking criticism so personally. If you start getting defensive, upset or angry when someone gives you what is supposed to be constructive criticism, then you need to start working on developing thick skin.
The most important thing is to maintain your self-confidence. Regardless of the negative untruths or negative truths that other people say about you, you have to develop “mental toughness” for your own well-being, remember who you are from God’s perspective, and don’t let their words influence your own self-worth. Being confident doesn’t mean thinking that you don’t have any shortcomings, but it does mean loving yourself and remembering all your good qualities. When you reach the level of having self-confidence, you’ll know it, because the faultfinders will no longer bring you down emotionally. It is not always what a person says or does that affects you, it is your reaction to what was said or done that matters. Discipline yourself to have emotional poise and serenity.
It’s important to note that not all criticism is destructive, there’s constructive criticism too. Take the time to understand the difference and the intentions of the person who is criticizing you. If your supervisor tells you that you don’t manage your time well during the day, it doesn’t mean that the supervisor doesn’t like you; it’s because the supervisor wants you to perform at your very best.
However, if someone you know makes a negative comment about the new job you might accept, it could be them projecting their own insecurity off on you, because they don’t have the courage to leave a job they don’t like. In this situation, you should not heed their advice.
“Life is like a camera: Focus on what’s important, capture the good moments, develop from the negatives, and if things don’t work out, just take another shot.”
~Ziad K. Abdelnour
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